Last week my son turned two years old and up until then I have been patiently waiting for him to turn two, dreams and ideas as to what I would do when that day finally arrived and now this day has finally arrived. The two years went pretty quick and I tried so hard to keep up and now we are here, he’s now two and soon ready to start preschool. I looked at myself and asked if I am ready to start work? I heard myself come up with many stories and excuses as to why I should take another year out and stay with my children. It was like I was literally begging myself for permission to stay home for another year. But then I also asked myself what is the rush? Who sets the rules ? and who says I should rush off to work if I am not ready?
This then showed me that sometimes we put unnecessary pressure on ourselves, thinking its someone else’ idea when in fact it is our own. We put undue pressure on ourselves yet we feel someone is on our back, pushing us towards a dream we do not want to achieve. No one is pushing me to do anything yet I am putting unnecessary stress on myself thinking I should be in an imagined destination which has nothing to do with who I am right now.
I am sharing this because I know many mothers may regret their decision to stay home with their children and feel they are missing out. Yes you could be at work somewhere but would your mind be settled knowing that your child is somewhere missing your or you miss your child. This is not to say never return back to work, this is saying if you do not feel ready then go back to work when you are ready no pressure. Yes you might have bills and debts to pay but then your peace of mind is priceless. Take your time and resume when you are truly ready. Take your time and do what is right for you and your family at the end of the day you are working hard to them right?
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